We all have a share of suffering and pain in life!!!!!!!!

The rich and poor all go through pain and suffering, losing dear ones, losing business, properties etc...these moment are very tough and trying....can lead us to loneliness and depression....some weak people destroy themselves either growing in liquor, smoking, drugs,, or even killing themselves. But mentally, emotionally and physically tough people face these tragedies in life. They learn lessons for themselves and pass on or communicate these messages to others for their benefits....because they too have similar experiences...life is no a bed of roses...so be spiritually, emotionally, mentally fit....physically fit to handle these situations.

It is human and divine to bring to people's day to day life, personal knowledge,, and experience of tragedy or sufferings and pains gone through. We can help the community when they go through terrible things in life and we can boost their resilience power in them. Our experiences can prepare them to face the challenges they would face in life. 

We think that our whole world is come down when we lose our dear ones. The friends and relatives also keep reminding us that everything is lost and we are on verge of destruction, their words and attitude some times increase our grief and pains and this keeps knocking every now and then on the doors of our lives. It disturbs our peace and lessens our resilient power to face problems and move on in life. This can lead us to go through a mental illness like denial depression, loneliness.  We may feel like victims and powerless when things go wrong and awry and the constant reminders of our negative experiences by the others. 

We need to be mentally and emotionally strong to undertake a journey of hope and expectations, allow oneself to be an active participant in grief, pain,, and suffering. Learn to navigate through tough moments and times only through self-confidence. It is possible when mental and emotional health is strong, one can really handle the pain of loss. Mentally and emotionally strong people become resilient people and learn to accept that suffering and pain is part of life...when the tough time comes strong people never say why me....why it happened to me....but accept that this is part of our life....sufferings are accompanying us

We need to choose carefully and realistically responses to these tough moments, we cannot do things that might change what has happened but it is good not to notice negative responses and emotions but positive emotions and responses. These responses should become part of our lives so that in the future we can be ready to handle any grief.....in short be a resilient person always...

There are threats around us like war, COVID, sufferings, social injustice, corruption, inequality, terrorism,, and our mind is always preparing to give responses to these negative situations but don't get drowned into in these threats and fears....but fight out.....choose life and not death.....light, and darkness..focus on what still you have,...build on them...turn your focus on those wonderful things that you possess to grow....think positively each day.....show gratitude and happiness...depression goes away....grief does not disturb us...

find a positive language that helps us.....

So let us ask often ourselves questions about what we are doing...how we can improve what we are doing to overcome grief. sometimes grief and pain not addressed properly can disturb us...harming ourselves by remembering those negative experiences....feed yourselves with positive experiences.... so question our acting and thinking, doing and planning...does it help or harm us....be resilient....be willing to be positive...we all have moments which are terrible which we never wanted or anticipated in our lives.....thinking like this may not remove our pain but it does help...possible to live and think about the past experiences.