Don't Carry the Load of unforgiveness !!!!!!!

Have your hurts become part of who you are? If so, it may be blocking you from forgiving someone. when someone clings to a bad experience and is still talking about it a week, a month, a year and more later, it becomes their identity. Not to ignore that some wounds are so deep that counselling may be in order.

“People think: ‘I have no control over my life,’ instead of letting God’s grace have power over them,”  “Holding onto it becomes an unfortunate maze they can’t come out of.” Why do people get stuck in a maze of pain? “They may want to get out but say they are unable,”  “I try to focus them on this being a choice. They are saying, ‘This memory has so much control over me, I can’t let it go.’ They feel like, ‘If I don’t hold on to this pain, I won’t be who I am.’”

It’s in our best interest to forgive. “People that don’t forgive, lock themselves in a prison; they are putting a burden on themselves,”. “In the process of saying they can’t forgive, they are making themselves the victim.”

Deciding not to forgive has serious consequence, sentencing people to a confinement that will eventually cause damage, “People want to believe they are forgiven by God but then they want to believe other people have done things beyond God’s forgiveness.”

Addressing issues of revenge or getting even, even regarding capital punishment, “It’s like that old saying that wanting revenge is like drinking poison and wanting the other person to die.”

Evil exists in the world and that past wounds can affect how some people treat others. “Everyone starts in the wrong place,”. “And people don’t always move at the same pace or to the same degree.”