Have
your hurts become part of who you are? If so, it may be blocking you from
forgiving someone. when someone clings to a bad
experience and is still talking about it a week, a month, a year and more
later, it becomes their identity. Not to
ignore that some wounds are so deep that counselling may be in order.
“People
think: ‘I have no control over my life,’ instead of letting God’s grace have
power over them,” “Holding onto it becomes an
unfortunate maze they can’t come out of.” Why do
people get stuck in a maze of pain? “They may want to get out but say they are
unable,” “I try to focus them on this being a choice. They are saying,
‘This memory has so much control over me, I can’t let it go.’ They feel like,
‘If I don’t hold on to this pain, I won’t be who I am.’”
It’s
in our best interest to forgive. “People that don’t forgive,
lock themselves in a prison; they are putting a burden on themselves,”. “In the process of saying they can’t forgive, they are making
themselves the victim.”
Deciding
not to forgive has serious consequence, sentencing people to a confinement that
will eventually cause damage, “People want to believe they are
forgiven by God but then they want to believe other people have done things
beyond God’s forgiveness.”
Addressing
issues of revenge or getting even, even regarding capital punishment, “It’s like that old saying that wanting revenge is like
drinking poison and wanting the other person to die.”
Evil exists in the world and that past wounds can affect
how some people treat others. “Everyone starts in the wrong place,”.
“And people don’t always move at the same pace or to the same degree.”
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